Shame On You


It’s probably quite a triggering emotion for many of us but a great one to talk about with our children.

This emotion used to be really important a very long time ago. Our survival depended on being part of the group, so if you did something that potentially could have you ostracised, it could mean death. That is why shame registers as pain in the brain, to give a strong message to not do that again. How interesting is that?

Sometimes we hold shame not because of what we have done, but what was done to us. We can hold shame within as, it is an emotion we might not want to share, but this one definitely should be shared and released.

A great way to release shame is to WRITE IT DOWN.  Often with shame, we don't want to talk about it, so this is a great way to let it out without having to talk it out.

Letting our children know that we all make mistakes and it is a good way to learn. Plus, it's important for them to know that they can always talk to you about anything and that you still love them no matter what 💜

Shame is included in our new book, Let It Go, along with sadness, anger and fear and includes ways to release the emotion... to let it go.


If you or someone you know, or your child, is struggling with shame or any emotions we always advise to seek professional help from your doctor, a psychologist or counsellor.  Never be ashamed or worried about reaching out for help.